This is a question that has a different answer for everyone, but in general, once the screening process is complete, the agency you choose to work with will most likely have more than a few sets of intended parents in mind as possible matches for you.
There are often specific things that intended parents are looking for in a surrogate, whether it be her age, location, pregnancy history, employment or relationship status so the agency will have these things in mind when presenting you with profiles of prospective matches.
They will of course also be considering your preferences, because as surrogates we also have ideas and preferences of what we’re looking for. The agency will also have spent a lot of time getting to know you and the intended parents they work with so they may find you prospective matches that don’t quite fit the checkboxes you were looking for but they have a good feeling knowing your personalities that you’d perhaps be a great match.
This is why we recommend keeping an open mind when matching and carefully reviewing every profile that is presented to you.
It’s one of the most important aspects of the journey and you’ll be working closely with these people over the better part of a year to help them build their family. It’s not a piece you want to rush, although for me I know I was eager to get started once I’d made the decision to become a surrogate, but I’m so glad I considered several possibilities before making the decision and I know that I ended up with the best possible match for me and my family, and that made all the difference.
Although there were a few profiles that broke my heart and I wanted to help them all, truly feeling a connection to the parents as people made my journey so much more rewarding. I ended up becoming good friends with another surrogate who carried for one of the couples I didn’t select and I was so happy she was able to help them and it was the right match for her.
