This is a question that I wish I’d asked more people with experience before naively sharing the news with my own family. Not everyone I told about my news was as excited about it as I thought they should be. I get it now that they were operating with way less information than I was, …
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Have you ever googled: ‘movies about surrogacy’? Some of the first movies to come up include: Surrogates Together Together A Deadly Adoption When The Bough Breaks I AM Secretly and Stealthily The Handmaid’s Tale Baby Mama The Surrogate (2020) The Surrogate (2013) A Surrogate’s Nightmare Most of these movies look like they belong under the …
The obvious factors to consider when carrying a baby for a couple in another country are language barriers, cultural differences, and more practically, time differences! Thanks to technology, the ability to communicate across borders, time zones, and even languages, is simple and even free. Getting to know someone from another country so intimately gives a …
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There is a common misconception that twins and multiples are much more likely with IVF pregnancies and this is not true. Some of this misconception may be based on old practices wherein doctors didn’t have the ability to carefully select tested embryos for viability and instead had to guess on the quality of embryos based …
The short answer is maybe… that being said, most surrogacy agencies are not issuing 1099 forms for surrogate compensation, as it is paid out often under tax codes and terms deemed not required to pay taxes, but we want to make sure you know that you should always consult a tax professional just to be …
The surrogate screening process is an important step in determining that surrogacy is, above all else, safe for the surrogate. After all, to be a surrogate, you are already a mother to your own kiddos, and a precious member of your own family. Surrogacy is a beautiful gift to give, but should never be at …
This is such a tough concept to wrestle with as a surrogate because your values and beliefs are suddenly becoming entangled with the values and beliefs of someone else for their family and their children. Personally, I can’t imagine having to make the decision whether or not to terminate a pregnancy of a child I …
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Something I heard a lot from people when I told them I wanted to be a surrogate was “why don’t they just adopt if they want kids so bad, there are so many kids who need homes…” Without critical thought, that comment sounds completely logical, but on deeper reflection it’s probably one of the most …
Let’s face it pregnancy, family building and life can be very complicated at times. Given the fact that any pregnancy can result in complications that make it difficult to become pregnant in the future, prospective surrogates who want more children of their own are always advised to complete their own families first before moving on …
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This is a question that has a different answer for everyone, but in general, once the screening process is complete, the agency you choose to work with will most likely have more than a few sets of intended parents in mind as possible matches for you. There are often specific things that intended parents are …
You are a very important part of a life-changing process, and it is important that you are fully compensated for your effort and expenses in this remarkable role. Surrogate compensation varies based on first time or experienced surrogate fee, singleton versus multiple pregnancy, the location of the surrogate, her employment status, does the surrogate have …
Why are the compensation numbers so different from what’s advertised? Read More »
Most surrogates have completed their own family before beginning the surrogacy process, and are currently raising their children at home — which means that, sooner or later, you will need to talk with them about your surrogacy plans… Surrogacy is a complicated concept, even for many adults to understand, and it can be difficult to …
